tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7598158775140531703.post2451805216233138389..comments2024-01-11T02:46:17.500-08:00Comments on Vintage Dutch Girl: Things You Should NEVER Say. Ever.Vintage Dutch Girlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05046622956132966310noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7598158775140531703.post-70289316009703351612011-04-15T20:22:34.514-07:002011-04-15T20:22:34.514-07:00Awesome list! I'll add:
1. Never ask a pregn...Awesome list! I'll add:<br /><br />1. Never ask a pregnant woman if it was a "planned" pregnancy. An aunt of mine asked me this...just because I was "of advanced maternal age." She didn't know it took me two years to get pregnant!<br /><br />2. Never ask the parents of an only child "when are you going to give him/her a sibling?" They may have struggled with all sorts of issues related to pregnancy/life that are none of your business. One child is a blessing! (And he is very happy, as are we!!)Dianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07412512129032742932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7598158775140531703.post-34997570385390392252011-04-12T19:07:00.163-07:002011-04-12T19:07:00.163-07:00I l.o.v.e this post. Amen to aaaaall of the above,...I l.o.v.e this post. Amen to aaaaall of the above, comments included. Why are some people so clueless?!?!Meghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14936019175846998515noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7598158775140531703.post-26534158436777774342011-04-08T19:23:41.778-07:002011-04-08T19:23:41.778-07:00Never tell a couple who has one boy and one girl c...Never tell a couple who has one boy and one girl child "Oh, one of each, you can stop now!" Really? Great, cause I was just waiting for you to give me permission to stop procreating, but you know, if all we kept having were girls I guess we'd just keep having babies! Grr!<br />Seriously, you never know how many children that couple wants to have.Rebekershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13587451047281113675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7598158775140531703.post-46912226879163558272011-04-08T16:32:07.101-07:002011-04-08T16:32:07.101-07:00I love the one about big families and "don...I love the one about big families and "don't you know how that happens?" We're expecting our 3rd and get that question a lot. I told my husband that if people are really so crass as to bring up our sex life then he should give them what they deserve and tell them all about it!<br /><br />AS for everything else, really people just need to keep their mouths shut. We rarely know what someone is dealing with (infertility, misscariage) and even a seemingly harmless question can be so emotionally devestating. Thanks for the reminders - I wish everyone could read these...skinner studiohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03120114257529045249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7598158775140531703.post-46174018462254726272011-04-08T15:23:47.604-07:002011-04-08T15:23:47.604-07:00As a single woman, who also happens to be a homebi...As a single woman, who also happens to be a homebirth midwife, I second two points, especially - <br /><br />1) never ask a single person why they're single. I finally got smart aleck one day and told somebody, "Oh, I used to be married, but I got tired of him and threw him off a bridge." I said it with a perfectly straight face. Their expression was priceless. ;-)<br /><br />2) never tell a pregnant woman all your birth horror stories. Midwives and natural childbirth advocates are left to pick up the pieces, and the fear you introduce into that woman's life is shameful. There are many, many factors that go into an unfortunate birth story, and you can't assume that everyone will be subjected to those same factors!<br /><br />The end. :)Jennifer Stewarthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06815758786703975248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7598158775140531703.post-35110093625396673862011-04-07T21:48:45.987-07:002011-04-07T21:48:45.987-07:00NEVER tell an infertile couple to "just relax...NEVER tell an infertile couple to "just relax and you'll get pregnant."<br />NEVER tell an infertile couple to "go on vacation and you'll probably come back pregnant".<br />NEVER ask an infertile couple "are you sure you're doing it right?"<br />NEVER say to an infertile couple, "all my husband has to do is look at me and I get pregnant".<br />NEVER tell an infertile couple how "lucky" they are to have the freedom and flexibility that comes with being childfree.<br />NEVER tell an infertile couple "you can just adopt". It's not as easy as it sounds.<br />NEVER ask an infertile couple "which one of you has the problem?" <br /><br />People can be so insensitive. Thank you for helping to right some wrongs, my dear. You are a gem. :)Mrs. Spencerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06791192075338843347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7598158775140531703.post-69169835751880907052011-04-07T15:30:01.087-07:002011-04-07T15:30:01.087-07:00So many good points. We used to be licensed foster...So many good points. We used to be licensed foster parents. One of the little boys who was in our care for a year we thought we were going to be able to adopt but it fell through. Anyway all that to say that i actually had a family member ask me if he was from Africa because he was African American. I was like no he lives 2 towns over. Cmon seriously?? I think I must have looked dumbfounded. I didn't even know how to respond to that. GrrrAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01134819304322489721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7598158775140531703.post-55575593574227876192011-04-07T15:24:02.797-07:002011-04-07T15:24:02.797-07:00Funny that this was posted today. I'm 27 week...Funny that this was posted today. I'm 27 weeks pregnant and was told "Girl, you're getting BIG!" today. Made me feel "extra" special!Momof2Minionshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07379458090565506175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7598158775140531703.post-16603313965585345182011-04-07T14:59:32.302-07:002011-04-07T14:59:32.302-07:00Great list! Tact, that is something major that pe...Great list! Tact, that is something major that people are missing!Jason and Gretchenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09685782123802879936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7598158775140531703.post-35232164866354178872011-04-07T14:54:16.501-07:002011-04-07T14:54:16.501-07:00Wow... great post! I will definitely remember the ...Wow... great post! I will definitely remember the list of things I should never say! Thanks!Marivichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05510009649240620274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7598158775140531703.post-33795852485577648092011-04-07T13:58:16.054-07:002011-04-07T13:58:16.054-07:00Note to self: Never read a list like this when pre...Note to self: Never read a list like this when pregnant and hormonally imbalanced. It will lead to lots of tears ;)<br /><br />Yes, yes, yes. As a pregnant gal who is "carrying differently this time" {Thanks a lot, *MOM*}, and who happens to be pregnant with her fourth *girl*, I completely get this list. I also happened to be blessed with an adopted niece, so yes, this really hits home. People need to familiarize themselves with tact.Sugarplum Creations Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15404300168941549805noreply@blogger.com